First dates can be nerve wracking for both men and women. However, there are some things that you can do to make your first date memorable.
One of the most important things to remember is to be yourself. This means being honest and not lying about anything. It’s also important to keep in mind that non-verbal actions can be just as important as verbal ones.
1. Be yourself
There are countless lists of first date tips for women, but the most important one is to be yourself. Being yourself means showing your date what makes you unique without putting on airs.
For example, if you don’t like to be on your phone during dates, don’t bring it along. Giddiness doesn’t read as enthusiasm on a first date and it can quickly turn someone off.
Also, don’t complain or criticize others or your own life situation. It sends a negative message and it is not what guys want to hear. Instead, focus on expressing positive emotions and being kind. This will make you more attractive.
2. Don’t be shy
People who are shy tend to hold back a lot of personality and feel uncomfortable letting it loose around strangers. This can lead to them feeling a bit overwhelmed on a first date, especially when they are surrounded by clingy, bossy guys.
Men should be mindful of this, and try to ease the shy girl into a conversation. Instead of grilling her on where she grew up, or how many siblings she has, steer the conversation to topics that are light and fun.
Similarly, gentlemen should remember to use some old-fashioned manners like holding doors and pulling out chairs. These are the little things that can make a big difference in a girls’ perception of them.
3. Don’t be afraid to ask questions
It’s important to ask questions and be interested in your date. This can help you get to know them better and will also make the date more fun.
For example, if your date mentions that they love music, you can ask them about their favorite bands. This will show that you are interested in them and that you aren’t just asking these questions to fill up conversation.
It’s also important to ask your date about their family and friends. This will give you a good sense of who they are as a person and can help you decide whether or not you’re compatible with them.
4. Don’t be afraid to laugh
Laughter is one of the best ways to break down barriers and show your date that you’re comfortable together. Plus, it’s an indication that you’re a fun person to be around.
Men often complain that women don’t hold doors or pull out chairs enough, so do your part to be a gentleman (even on a first date). This shows you care and will go a long way towards impressing her.
It’s not uncommon to find that you and your date have a lot in common, from food to politics to TV shows. A spirited debate over your shared interests is a good sign that your first date went well.
5. Don’t be afraid to touch
The first date is a great time to test compatibility. It’s a chance to see if your personality and interests click.
Don’t be afraid to touch your date, but don’t overdo it. A light touch on the arm or shoulder can be a nice way to show your interest.
Avoid talking about serious topics like politics and religion on your first date. These topics can turn into heated debates and will likely cause more tension than necessary.
Giddiness on a first date reads as anxiety, not enthusiasm. Instead, do some pre-date “power posing” to boost your confidence and give off the right impression.
6. Don’t be afraid to ask for a second date
Talking too much about yourself on the first date can bore your date and make them feel like you’re dominating the conversation. Keep the conversation light and focused on fun, shared experiences.
Leaning forward, making eye contact and smiling can all signal that you’re confident and engaged in the conversation. Avoid crossing your arms, looking around the room or fidgeting.
If you enjoyed the first date and want to see them again, don’t be afraid to ask! If you’re nervous about asking in person, consider texting them to schedule a time. Just be careful not to sound desperate or needy. Be kind and courteous if your date doesn’t agree to a second date.
